Counseling/Therapy for Infidelity, Cheating &
Affairs in San Diego
THERAPY FOR INFIDELITY
Navigate the painful aftermath of an affair and figure out if healing is possible with therapy for couples going through infidelity in San Diego.
Discovering infidelity can shake you to your core. The pain, the confusion, the questions about what is real and what isn’t - it can all feel like the ground has suddenly dropped out from underneath you. Both partners may feel overwhelmed by grief, anger, shame or fear about the future and it can be hard to know where to begin.
Therapy can offer a steady place to process the hurt, understand what happened and why and explore whether rebuilding is possible for you two. If you do decide to try to move forward together, I can help you navigate the slow, intentional work of repairing trust. Regardless of what you choose to do, the path forward is a difficult one to navigate. My goal is to help you on your journey!
WHERE I CAN HELP
Common challenges after infidelity we can address…
Processing & working through immediate emotions such as shock, grief, anger, resentment and hurt
Understanding how the affair happened without blame or shame
Differentiating between forgiveness and reconciliation
Exploring whether to repair or separate with clarity and intention
Rebuilding trust and emotional safety with each other
Working through triggers, patterns and dynamics that contributed to relationship breakdown
Setting clear boundaries/expectations and communicating needs honestly
Learning how to create transparency and accountability moving forward
Re-establishing intimacy, both emotional and physical
Creating a new relationship foundation rather than returning to the “old normal”
WHAT YOU’LL GAIN
How therapy can help both partners work through infidelity
A safe space to process the pain and confusion
You’ll have room to navigate the shock, grief, anger and heartbreak that come with betrayal without pressure, judgment or rushed decisions.
Clarity about whether the relationship has a future
Together, we’ll explore what led to the affair, what each partner needs and whether rebuilding is possible or healthy for both of you.
Tools for rebuilding trust (if you choose to stay)
If you move forward as a couple, we’ll explore transparency, accountability, communication and repair so trust can slowly be restored.
A deeper understanding of patterns & needs
Whether you stay or go, you’ll gain insight into yourself, your boundaries and what you need for healthier relationships in the future.
Emotionally-focussed therapy (EFT) to navigate infidelity, cheating and betrayal
MY APPROACH
When working with couples, I use a modality called Emotionally Focused Therapy (or EFT for short). Regardless of your specific issues, EFT is designed to help you identify the emotional patterns at the root of your struggles and shift your dynamic away from anger, distance & blame towards understanding, connection and trust.
As your therapist, my goal is to help you learn how to notice reactive patterns when they happen and equip you with the right tools so you can communicate effectively and create an environment of emotional safety
EFT is a very non-judgmental and compassionate approach. The goal is not to blame one another or identify one partner as the source of all problems but rather about helping both of you to step out of old cycles so you can build a stronger, healthier connection with each other.
ABOUT ME
Why choose couples therapy with me?
A nonjudgmental, trauma-informed approach to affair recovery that centers both accountability and healing.
Experienced EFT therapist helping couples rebuild trust after infidelity – or separate with clarity and integrity.
Available for in-person therapy in a comfortable office in San Diego. Online sessions possible when needed.
A deeply personal & genuine therapeutic relationship. Not rushed, surface-level care you often get at larger practices.
FEES & FAQs
Everything you need to know about starting therapy with me
Head over to my FAQ page to find all the practical information about working with me, such as what to expect, costs, the insurance providers I accept, my working hours, etc.
Take your first step towards healing
Finding a therapist that really gets you can be tricky - I know! You never know if you’ll actually click with someone until you can speak to them. To help make that process easier for you, I offer a free 15-min online consultation so you can meet me, ask questions and decide for yourself if the vibe is right.