Therapy & Counseling for Polyamory, Ethical Non-Monogamy and Open Relationships in San Diego

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POLYAMOROUS COUPLES THERAPY

Navigate open or polyamorous relationships with therapy for non-monogamous couples in San Diego.

Exploring consensual non-monogamy can be exciting, expansive and deeply meaningful but it also comes with challenges that many couples feel unprepared for. Jealousy, communication breakdowns, the lack of emotional boundaries and mismatched expectations can all create confusion and strain on the relationship.

Therapy can provide a grounded, non-judgmental space to help you and your partner(s) navigate the complexities of polyamory and open relationships. Whether you're considering opening up your current monogamous relationship, just starting off on the journey or seeking support around existing challenges, we’ll work together to create relationship structures that feel healthy and sustainable for everyone involved.

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WHERE I CAN HELP

Common polyamory challenges we can address…

  • Honest & compassionate communication between all partners

  • Jealousy, insecurity and attachment wounds

  • Navigating conversations around non-monogamy within a monogamous relationship 

  • Establishing or revisiting agreements, boundaries and expectations

  • Repairing trust when agreements are broken

  • Managing NRE (new relationship energy)

  • Handling scheduling conflicts, time distribution or emotional imbalance

  • Navigating family, cultural or external stressors

  • Strengthening intimacy and connection across relationships

  • Processing misunderstandings or recurring conflict cycles

  • Creating transparency, safety and long-term relational health

WHAT YOU’LL GAIN

How couples therapy can help navigate open relationships

Clarity on whether non-monogamy is the right step for you and your relationship

Therapy can offer a space for monogamous couples to explore their desires and fears in order to make a decision that feels good for both partners.

 Clarity on joint boundaries, agreements & communication between everyone

We’ll work to define expectations and build transparent communication habits so everyone stays happy, safe and on the same page.

Support in navigating anger, jealousy, insecurities and other big emotions

You’ll gain tools to manage the emotional complexity of non-monogamy, helping you move from reactive to regulated when difficult feelings show up.

Healthier & more fulfilling dynamics across all partners involved

With proper guidance, you can create relationships that feel emotionally grounded, intentional and equally fulfilling for everyone involved.

  • Wow! What a relief to find a therapist like Dana. Dana genuinely cares about you. She helped us so much. She was the perfect blend of soft and direct we were looking for. Dana is very communicative and really seems to love doing therapy. She's also a mom so it was easy to know she understood a little bit of our struggle too. We highly recommend Dana to anyone in the San Diego area who is seeking couple therapy. We've also referred individuals to her who have had similar experience with her. A+++

    — Former Client

  • I’ve had the pleasure of working closely with Dana for over two years, and I continue to be impressed by her skill, warmth, and dedication as a couples therapist. Dana is genuine and compassionate, and really takes the time to understand her clients. In our time collaborating, I’ve seen how thoughtfully she uses Emotionally Focused Therapy and has a natural ability to hold space for both partners. I would wholeheartedly recommend Dana to any couple seeking a therapist who is not only highly skilled but also deeply caring.

    — Colleague

  • I wholeheartedly recommend Dana without reservation. She is a highly skilled couples therapist who supports her clients using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to create lasting, meaningful change. Her lived experiences bring an additional depth to her work, allowing her to connect with clients in a way that feels both compassionate and truly understanding. She brings warmth, empathy, and genuine care into every session, creating a safe and supportive space for growth. Any client would be fortunate to work with her.

    — Colleague

MY APPROACH

Emotionally-focussed therapy (EFT) for polyamory and ethical non-monogamy

When working with couples, I use a modality called Emotionally Focused Therapy (or EFT for short). Regardless of your specific issues, EFT is designed to help you identify the emotional patterns at the root of your struggles and shift your dynamic away from anger, distance & blame towards understanding, connection and trust. 

As your therapist, my goal is to help you learn how to notice reactive patterns when they happen and equip you with the right tools so you can communicate effectively and create an environment of emotional safety

EFT is a very non-judgmental and compassionate approach. The goal is not to blame one another or identify one partner as the source of all problems but rather about helping both of you to step out of old cycles so you can build a stronger, healthier connection with each other.

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ABOUT ME

Why choose couples therapy with me?

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An empathy-driven, non-blaming approach that prioritizes mutual understanding instead of arguing over who’s “right”.

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Specialized training working with consensual non-monogamous and polyamorous relationships.

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Available for in-person therapy in a comfortable office in San Diego. Online sessions possible when needed.

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A deeply personal & genuine therapeutic relationship. Not rushed, surface-level care you often get at larger practices.

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FEES & FAQs

Everything you need to know about starting therapy with me

Head over to my FAQ page to find all the practical information about working with me, such as what to expect, costs, the insurance providers I accept, my working hours, etc.

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Take your first step towards healing

Finding a therapist that really gets you can be tricky - I know! You never know if you’ll actually click with someone until you can speak to them. To help make that process easier for you, I offer a free 15-min online consultation so you can meet me, ask questions and decide for yourself if the vibe is right. 

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